11 Years
On July 9th, I had the blessing of celebrating my 11th Anniversary with my best friend and only squeeze! I am extremely thankful to have healthy and godly marriage.
“11 years in the “game” and we’re still on the same team. Marriage is definitely NOT a game. It’s purposed and designed by God. Therefore, it’ll challenge you, change you, grow you, and everything else that’s for your good but His glory."
Terrence, you’re my MVP and I’m glad to be winning by your side, through the ups and downs, victories and lessons. I love you Bay! Happy Anniversary!”
~ Love, K-Cup
In the midst of being reminiscent, I want to take a moment to encourage someone.
It’s tough to live in a culture that idolizes relationships and marriages. But we shouldn’t idolize a relationship or marriage just to satisfy our own desires, wants, or needs. A marriage is a ministry created by God for a male and a female to glorify him. It requires you to lay aside your own preferences and wills to become one with your spouse.
You have to have faithful, constant resolve as an individual to honor God before you even get married. Marriage doesn’t fix your problems or end temptations, it actually exposes them. That’s why it’s critical to be evenly yoked with someone who is willing to be an honest, spiritual mirror for you. Someone who has an established faithful, constant resolve to honor and obey God as well.
To my believer “ladies in waiting”, don’t get into a relationship with a man that can’t lead you spiritually. I don’t care how fine he is or what he may have said, check the fruit! The whole fruit! If it’s rotten, don’t eat it! If it’s not fully grown, don’t eat it! Don’t settle! Wait for God’s best and trust that He has your best interest in mind in his timing, and in His season. Same goes for you fellas, don’t get tripped up by what seems or looks good either. Also remember that a relationship or marriage doesn’t define your worth either!
To be honest, when Terrence and I were dating I had no idea we would even get married. In fact, when we were just co-workers, I actually told him whoever he marries would be a lucky girl. Why? Because I noticed the real fruit in his life. I knew him as a person and how he carried himself as a man; not saying he was or is perfect but the fruit of good, godly character was present.
Marriages are designed to glorify God and I want to do just that. I want someone to know and see that God is still good and godly marriages do still exist and to kill the social stress and stigma surrounding having to be in relationships and getting married. Don’t rush; trust God’s process for your life !
